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Help to change the law on Assisted Dying

Mum’s story on Youtube

I have just sent a letter to the politicians via http://www.yesuntiltheend.co.uk/ . This is an important issue and the law NEEDS TO CHANGE.
Please click on the link, watch the short video and then click YES to send the letter.
This is my letter, personalised.

Dear leader,

I am writing to let you know I support the Assisted Dying Bill and I want this government, and any future government, to allow time for this issue to be fully debated in the House of Commons.

Parliament needs to act on assisted dying to ensure that fewer dying adults – and their families – face unnecessary suffering at the end of their lives.

Assisted dying, limited to terminally ill, mentally competent adults, should be an option alongside access to good quality end-of-life care. We need a compassionate, strictly safeguarded and clear approach to suffering at the end of life.

It cannot be right that individuals have to take their plight to the courts, or into their own hands without the advice and support of healthcare professionals. A change in the law would bring clarity to the law and provide safety and security for the terminally ill and healthcare professionals.

Above all it will give dying adults peace of mind that the choice of assisted dying is available if their suffering becomes too great for them in their final months of life.

Without a change in the law, terminally ill patients will continue to take decisions without adequate safeguards, whether by travelling to Dignitas to die, ending their lives themselves, or being illegally helped to die by doctors.

The state of Oregon passed an assisted dying law in 1997. There have been no cases of abuse and no calls to extend the law beyond terminal illness. According to Ann Jackson, Executive Director of Oregon Hospice Association from 1988 to 2008, assisted dying “. . .has been responsibly implemented with none of the predicted dire consequences.”

My view is that there is no reason a similar law cannot work safely in the UK.

Two of my brothers had Huntington’s disease (as well as my father and my aunt). One of my brothers lived until this terrible disease finally killed him; not being able to walk, talk, feed himself or even swallow. He was doubly incontinent and had no quality of life. My other brother, Nigel Goodman, did not want to live to become so trapped in his body and suffering in this way. He begged his family and friends to be with him at his death and to help to end his suffering. My Mum assisted his suicide and was initially charged with murder and then aiding and abetting a suicide. She was very alone and she broke the law because Nigel was suffering and he did not want to die alone. The Assisted Dying bill would not have helped her but because of my story I have had many, many people express their views to me of how their hands were tied when their suffering loved ones begged them to help them end their suffering at the end of their lives. How can we be so cruel as to just say, “I’m sorry, I can’t help  you.”

 I am a holistic therapist and I work in various care-homes. I work with people with locked in syndrome and with MS patients, dementia and other conditions. I see how much love is around these people and that some of them have some sort of quality of life. But this is about CHOICE at the END OF LIFE. The law in Oregon is not abused. With proper safeguards in place we can move forward to be loving people who care as much about a good death as a good life.

Who are we to tell individual people, suffering from a terminal illness, that they have to live and get on with it? We are not God. Each individual case is different. It’s about choice. It’s about human love, kindness and empathy. Please listen to the people.

My view is shared by the overwhelming majority of the British public: “The statistically robust British Social Attitudes survey suggests that a substantial majority of people agree the law should be changed so that terminally ill, if not other people can be assisted to end their own lives.

There have been several other surveys of varied statistical merit but none of these has reported a majority opposed to change” (Ministry of Justice, May 2014)

I believe it is time for Parliament to act, and for the main political parties to show leadership. I would be very interested in hearing your views on a much needed change in the law.

Kind Regards

Deborah Goodman

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The ethical, philosophical and personal reasons behind the need to change the law. A New Book from Dignity in Dying

assisted_dying_bookA new book has been launched that discusses the ethical, philosophical and personal reasons behind the need to change the law.

The book includes a foreword by Sir Terry Pratchett and contributions from philosophers, religious leaders, healthcare professionals and people who’ve been personally affected by the current legal status of assisted dying in the UK.

The book is available on Amazon and has it’s own website.

Half of the royalties raised from the sale of the book go towards the campaign for Dignity in Dying.

My family story is included in the book.

The editors of the book have both written about what motivated them to get involved.Lesley_Close

 

 

Everybody Matters: A tribute to a very special man.

Yesterday I attended the funeral of a client of mine. Geoff was a wonderful man who had Multiple Sclerosis and each week I went to the care home where he lived and massagewhite featherd his feet for him. The thing that most struck me with Geoff is that I never once heard him complain and that he always enquired about my wellbeing when I was there. He would never let a visit go by without telling me a joke or two and he would tell me constantly that ‘everybody matters’. How true that is. Everybody DOES matter and in this busy fast-paced world that we live in, it’s good to be reminded of that.

As I massaged Geoff’s feet, he would close his eyes and go to a place of peace and calm and a wonderful smile would appear on his face. Before I left him, relaxed in his bed, I would touch his hand and say goodbye and he would always say to me ‘God bless you’. Those were our last words to each other.

As I left my house for the funeral yesterday I saw a white feather. God Bless you Geoffrey…. everybody matters.